Human beings are funny; our journeys are so similar yet so different, at the same time.
For obvious reasons, it’s easy to think about all of the little annoyances going on in our own lives.
These irritants affect the way we react to situations, conversations, and relationships probably every day of our lives; it’s not as easy to remember that everyone we encounter has their own little annoyances; affecting the way that they react to situations, conversations, and relationships…
We become defensive easily.
Quick to throw up that wall, put the guards out front, and let no one in.
We have become conditioned to believe that it is someone else’s job to keep us happy. And that they should have known what we were going through and not said or done whatever it was that upset us.
Rarely do we think of the other person’s perspective.
Especially not when it comes to our feelings..
We feel like people have missed the mark taking care of us, so to retaliate we try our best not to take care of them; all the while not thinking about what the real root of the problem is;
And now that you are thinking about it, the wheels are spinning, now the change can begin.
Our own self-importance gives us a false sense of entitlement; before we know it, we have let our feelings take over. Now guess who is running the show?
Now all the small miscommunications in our life grow, fueled by our hurt feelings.
Rarely is logic found in hurt feelings.
When our feelings are hurt we are more than likely thinking about ourselves, our pride and ego, our own survival..
but what if you became your own hero?
What if you stepped outside of the box of your own feelings and calmly looked into the situation? What if you began to realize that raising your voice and overreacting we’re not making anyone listen to you more clearly; on the contrary it was causing them to put up a wall and now communication is all but lost.
What if we began to identify the reason our feelings become injured? Taking the time to find out what is triggering you so to speak. It probably has nothing to do with the person you’re arguing with or the person who you feel has hurt you. They probably had no malicious intention. What if you began an internal investigation into why your feelings are your feelings?
What if I make my feelings wait on the sidelines while logic figures out what is happening?
What if you begin to really understand who you are at your very core?
I believe managing hard feelings starts with self-discovery, and let me tell you you’re going to find some ugly shit in there!
Don’t let that stop you. Let it motivate you.